"A life without a lonely place, that is, a life without a quiet centre, easily becomes destructive. When we cling to the results of our actions as our only way of self-identification, then we become possessive and defensive and tend to look at our fellow human beings more as enemies to be kept at a distance than as friends with whom we share the gifts of life...It is in solitude that we can discover that being is more important than having and that we are worth more than the results of our efforts...In solitude we become aware that our worth is not the same as our usefulness." ~ Henri Nouwen, Show Me The Way